Stepmothers - Please Help! (Max Points To Best Answer!)?

Wow. You have a hard thing to deal w/. You are obviously in it for the long haul though, bc u got custody while with your husband. I wouldn't consider yourself a step parent although yes u are. You are that girls place of a mom, since she is not in the picture, as her grandparents were raising her. It is a very difficult thing to do to fix peoples bad parenting techniques as u described. You sound like you are doing a great job with her, and in the best and loving way you know how. as far as it not taking a toll on you and your husband, that will be tough. Just make sure to always re assure to each other the love and care u have for each other. And once your step daughter is in your care and knows your ground rules and what you will and wil not stand for in your house, and that you two are jot push overs she will figure out real quick what she can and can not get away with or do. Being consistent is the best way to get that done. I hope your sanity stays w/ you, as the task you are up against is rough. But you love her and sue is in a yood place w/ Yall. Getting the life and discipline sue needs to grow up well. Take care and wish you the best!!!